Thursday, August 23, 2007

No Easy Way to Say This

Just thought I would publish this here, in case this message was not received.

We wish we had some clever way of starting off a letter like this, but there isn't any nice way to say it: we are getting divorced. This may come as a shock to you, but this has been a long time in coming. Rest assured that we have made every effort to avoid this outcome, but we realized that it is the best solution for both of us. We would like to have told each and every one of you in person, but airfare is awfully expensive.

We're not going to try and answer all of your questions with this letter, but we can say the following with no reservations:

  • This is an amicable divorce.
  • There is no need for you to take sides. Please don't fall into the trap of "Well, I can't talk to him because I just talked to her…" You can talk to both of us. Really. It's OK.
  • This was not the result of infidelity, financial chicanery, or any of the usual reasons why people divorce.
  • We still care about each other a great deal. Yes, this is making the process harder, not easier.
So, what's next for us? In the Commonwealth of Virginia, a couple has to be separated for 6 months before a divorce can be finalized. So Sweetie is going to try to keep the house and tommyspoon is moving out September 1.

This is a time of uncertainty for both of us. But we both cherish the love and support that all of you have given to us; the certainty of that love and support is what will get us through this rough time. We love all of you very much! That remains certain, always.

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